Despite looking seemingly “passive” (e.g. uninterested, unwilling to do anything), depression is a set of highly aggressive mental activities. Persistent and mutually magnifying destructive emotions like sadness, self-pity, apathy, fear, jealousy, envy, offense and ill will towards our incapable selves, the imperfection of others and the unfair world. A depressed person is drained by endless loops of thoughts and emotions aimed at countering and harming oneself and others for not having something they deem critical. Why do anything if it does not (or did not) lead to what we want(ed)?
However, the cause of depression is not our inability to fulfill our wishes, but our exaggerated and artificial dependency on them. E.g. clinging to money, well-being or romantic relationships. A state of depression is also supported by past repetitions of similar reactions, or the opposite extremes like anger.
Untangling depression, as any aggregate state (a combination of multiple mental activities), means locating and stopping the production of the destructive emotions comprising it. The usual suspects: causes, stories, traumas, views, etc. Traditional attempts to divert our attention to “positive” things, entertain ourselves, physical activity, chemicals, etc. may work if no serious issues are involved.
Let’s take a look at some of the destructive emotions contributing to depression:
- Sadness, self-pity, apathy
- Taking offense, feeling “unfairly” treated, jealousy and envy
- Fear, anxiety
- Anger, hate
Sadness, self-pity, apathy
If we cannot control the outside world or subdue the attachments fuelling the attempts, our minds divert the impact to the ineffective instrument — ourselves. Our consciousness is forced to harm ourselves if it cannot have what it desires. We are caught in a self-destructing process of thinking less of ourselves; attacking inept, unfortunate, defeated us. We pity ourselves, stop ourselves from doing what’s good for us, basically, punishing ourselves and others.
Subduing sadness, self-pity, and apathy requires updating our views of ourselves and addressing specific attachments pushing us to self-harm. It is also often connected to our dependence on “fair treatment” and expectations — our versions, obviously.
Taking offense, feeling “unfairly” treated, jealousy and envy
The feeling of being unfairly treated by someone, or even life in general. We feel unjustly deprived of something we are“entitled to”, offended. Our minds attack the “unjust” world, “unfair” situation, everyone and everything we blame for causing it. We feel jealousy about not having what others do and envy that they have it.
The solution requires reviewing the roots of our claims to the world, people, and ourselves. Clearing the past cases of offenses, jealousy or envy; also checking our dependence on fairness, justice, our principles and ideals.
Our minds actively reject and try to avoid unwanted future/undesired events, not to participate in it, up to the level of mentally destroying it or ourselves. Our diverse fears contribute immensely to depressive states. Hence, all of them have to be looked into.
We hate the world, the undesired situation, people and ourselves. Basically, wishing ill, mentally trying to harm, destroy what seems to be causing our current troubles or is not suffering as we do. No comment. 🙂